Healing isn’t easy. It’s sometimes painful. It’s not very fun and a lot of people never really heal from their trauma or learn to cope better with their chronic illnesses or mental disorders. However healing is worth it and a better, happier, more successful, less stressful, more fulfilling life is possible if you just believe, dedicate yourself a few hours a week, and study what you will find on this site and the sites linked. 

Spare the Rod is not a psychiatric hospital and none of us are trained psychiatrists. What we do is help you connect to information online that can help you with things like depression, anxiety, PTSD, CPTSD, DID, and trauma related mental wellness issues. We refer only to strict, vetted, government and/or pier reviewed studies, methods of treatment, and leave perscribing medications, specific treatments and therapies up to you and your doctor. However, this is a great place to get familiar with different ways people have been able to heal or better cope. We hope you will find this site useful. If you have any information you think we missed that we should add please feel free to contact us and we will vet the info and if it is decided it will help people heal and not harm anyone we will put it up! Thank you! 

Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it. – Tori Amos

Visit Our Other Sites!

Main Spare The Rod WebSite

This site is dedicated to exposing and shutting down abusive troubled teen industry youth centers! Check out our latest legislative fixes, news about our advocacy efforts, or find out how you can get involved and help us #SaveOurTeens!

Main Website

Spare The Baton

#SpareTheBaton is the anti-police brutality wing of our non profit. We stand in solidarity with movements like Black Lives Matter and the Antifa movement and call for an end to heavy handed tactics, system racism, the bullying and abuse that our citizens, especially citizens of the BIPOC community or those suffering from mental health or homelessness, have become accustomed to. 

Spare The Baton


We have created a site that is full of resources for those trying to live happier, healthier, more productive, and more fulfilling lives post trauma. We have resources for LGBTQ, BIPOC, the houseless, those aging out of foster care, legal assistance, food, shelter, clothing, you  name it we will try to link you to it. 


Our Team

Brett Harper


Brett Harper is the founder and creator of the #SpareTheRod & #SpareTheBaton and runs & Healing With Spare The Rod. He is a survivor of institutional child abuse, a writer, activist, musician, DJ, event organizer/planner, healer and a mental health advocate. 




Andrew Haynes

Vice President

Andrew has an Associates, works for United Cerebral Palsy, in addition to volunteering with us and is our resource guru. You won’t find a more resourceful and kind person. 




Nate Gnecknow


Nate is the newest member or our team. He is our secretary and records keeper. 




Contact Us

Do you have information not listed here that you think belongs on our site? Do you have comments, questions or concerns? Reach out and we will get back to you as soon as we can! Thanks!